I would have thought that by having 3 babies it would get easier but with each baby comes new and different needs. Sometimes I feel like a complete novice and then other-times I can feel like as one reader put it Wonder Women!
I have achieved many things in life, but at the moment hanging a load of washing out is a major achievement. I have surrendered to LO being the boss for the next few months. He is a dear little boy, and the majority of the time very gentle and placid apart from the odd and very normal newborn unsettled periods. Little ones in the home certainly make you see and enjoy the simple things of life.
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You're right. Sometimes it IS a massive achievement to hang out a load of washing when you have a newborn baby. But the rest of the day is full of other achievements too, all to do with meeting the needs of little people. Take a breath and remember, it does get easier, and it will, especially when the hormonal fog lifts! We understand. xx
Know the emotions you are feeling, after having my last baby (at 47) I couldnt co ordinate anything..it was a major accomplishment just to cook dinner..she's now 3 and getting easier...and now comes menopause just to create more hormonal dysfunction?? Anyhow your boy is beautiful and im sure those little girls are clucking over him PS Missed your posts, glad all is good XX
Three definitely changes the dynamics and it does take some time to adjust (it's 15 months later and sometimes I'm still adjusting!). The roller coaster ride of emotions and levels of coping sound so similar to what I experienced. It does get easier though with time. I try to take some time to a few things for myself each day, even if it's just one row of knitting.
My Miss Edie just asked if Elvis could come to our house for a cup of tea!
I totally relate to your post.
I remember the first time I took all 3 kids to the supermarket. I couldn't even work out how to get 3 kids out of the car without one of them being hit by a car let alone getting them all in the trolley and food. I did manage eventually though (even felt quite proud that we had food to eat!) I just had to give myself time and be patient with myself (hard to do!)
You are doing an amazing job, but like Miss Edie said - You are always welcome for a cuppa (even though we have never met in person.)
:) you are doing a great and hugely important job! As another fellow mum of 3, I totally agree with the others, not only do you need to relearn everything again, but you really do need to learn how to forgive yourself if nothing "gets done" (i mean aside from building up new, little lives, shaping personalities and identities and doing your bit to make the world a better place by contributing loved, and in turn loving, kids). Try to remember how important your job as mum is, and that anything important its never going to be all that easy. Anyone reading your blog can clearly see how much your kids are loved and cared for, no matter how inadequate you feel for the job. Keep it up, your sort-of-anonymous cheer squad are always here-especially if you keep showing us your sweet little Elvis! :)
Big, warm, cyber hugs to you!
I love your honesty...it is difficult with three children, don't beat yourself up, you are amazing in your achievements. I was beginning to think I was a hopeless case when I read your posts, post delivery, and here you are cutting out squares for a quilt and photographing them too! I'm pleased that you are able to feel good at times and normally overwhelmed at other times, this is normal and your posts normalises life for other readers. I thank you for saying it's tough when it is. Thank you, but I still think you are doing an amazing job keeping a blog as well as a family. Lower your expectations, we'll keep checking your blog even if you can't post for a while, and understand if it's a tricky day/week etc... We Mum's understand
such long feet and legs! how beautiful ...
be kind and gentle to yourself, you are way more important than any quilt or sink of dishes - everything will be fine
take care, take your time
Barbara x
I can feel that sinking feeling too, and I only have one. Every day is an adventure and I'm getting used to the fact that just when I think I have it sussed, Josephine throws a curve ball and it's all change. Loving every second though. She's a dream.
That Little Bird of yours is divine. I can't resist the teeny feet. I could kiss Josephine's all day long xx
Long time reader, first time commenting. i just love your blog and your beautiful creations, especially your gorgeous children. Our number three is almost nine weeks and i can so relate to your post. Thankfully we are just emerging slightly from the fog and I can feel us all adjusting to our new 'normal' ie not dressed til after 10 most days and regular toasted sandwiches for tea!!!! But everytime I look at our little man and the two bigger kids I realise the time goes so fast, i am trying just to manage the here and now as best i can and enjoy this precious time. Thinking of you, best wishes Bryony
you're doing the best you can every day, that is enough. be gentle with yourself. hugs! Jane x
I have been reading your blog for a while now and admired you when you were doing it all with two children and now there's three! You live in an amazing place...please sit for a while and take it all in...smell the salt air, breath it in and out for a while and I promise you it will make you feel better. I lived not far from you when I was growing up and then when I had my three babies...things were very hazy for me by the time I had my third but living there, being able to push the pram on the promenade made all the difference. X
I think lots of mums from no 3 and so on can really understand you...
The difference is that now, with a third little one, you know that it will just get easier with time and that hard moments are just moments.
When I am about to loose it I took the habit to think about what is said in the book 'Buddhism for mummies'. I just observe and let go.
Take care and lots of love from the other side of teh world!
There are always going to be hard moments with No. 3 !! believe me!! and yes, it was a massive achievement to get the washing out (just don't expect to get it in and folded/put away too!). Like you I have two girls first then a (gorgeous) little boy when my eldest started prep, and he was definitely my hardest baby. Each child is different with a different set of challenges, throw in toddlers, nappies, food preparation, quality time and there is nothing left for the mums! its a wonder we are still standing sometimes!! I do recall massive feelings of guilt in not being able to share myself around. that was the hardest. Just remember each day is a new day....
Oh wow! Baby number three is here! Congratulations Kathryn, to you and your sweet family.
Enjoy this beautiful newborn time. xxx
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